.. a 15 year old boy was shot twice, once in the head and once in the chest here in Sweden, in a town called Malmö (malmoe) to be more exact.

And suddenly, after reading that in the news, New Years eve didnt feel great at all anymore.
I almost cried by reading it and I didnt only think about that boy and his family. I also thought about whoever done this is surely not so old himself, and most likely also has a family that cares about him. He will live with what he has done for the rest of his life.

They both got life in one way. Both have to live with this crime affecting their lifes in one way or another.
And I belive when they find out who did it, there will be two mothers crying and two mothers heart will be broken.

How did we learn the kids that life is so cheap? That its meaningless and that we can waste them as we choose? That humans are garbage and worth absolutely nothing?
Where did we go wrong?

I posted about this incident on facebook earlier today and one of the comments were "I hope they caught the guy that did it" .. Yes, so do I  but when I think about it.. So he gets caught, gets a sentence.. then what?
The kid that got shot is critically hurt, they dont know if he will survive.. shot in the head most often means braindamage.. Catching the guy who did it wont change that.. He can never take back what he done.
Yet.. he is most likely just a kid as well, I wouldnt be surprisedif he is under 18.. That means he aint even old enough to buy alcohol in Sweden. Not old enough to drive a car.. Who decided to sell a gun to him appearantly thought he was old enough to shoot one..

Thats the guys I want caught first of all.. The people who sells the guns, who sells drugs and so on..

However Im sure that tonight there is two more broken souls in Sweden, one who got shot and one who shot him.

Take a minute - Think about it!

I will carry on the previous post "The Call" later on some day, might be in an hour or might be in a week, I`m not sure.
It takes a lot of energy to write down the painful moments of your life and sometimes you just aint up for it.

And truth be told, I dont want you to come here and see misery, that aint what this blog is about.
I want it to be a nspiration for life, I want it to make you think!
I want you to see the people you meet in your life in a different light,
and I want you, Yes You to reach out and touch the heart of someone else.
Someone who needs it,you can touch someones heart and change their day by just giving them a smile.

People say the world has changed and its harder now, I must agree.
I wonder sometimes, could it be that the young ones growing up today lacks the  amount of empathy that we had and have?
I see alot more violence these days, in the newspapers, on the tv.
Why is that, is it only the parents fault? I have a problem beliving that since that would mean that suddenly there is way more bad parents in the world aswell?

Could it be that when I grew up there was almost always an adult around? In my case my mother was a stay at homemom. Then there was a chance that one of the parents, even in middleclasshomes, was the one the whole family depended on financially. Is that a possibilty these days? Not in Sweden if you have an ordinary job I think. I mean you can make it so you have roof over your head, you can pay the rent and have electicity and food but not much more then that if you have kids.

At the same time, everyhting has to be more effective, less adults in kindergardens and school ,yet, more kids. Who calculated out that that would be a good solution? And why on earth, worldwide do we accept it?

Take a minute - Think about it!

This parentingthing really bugs me.
I see people around me that always, always put their kids first they really dotn care if they get their own meds and so on as long as the kids has clothes and whatever they might need at the moment. I cant say how much I like those parents.

But then we have another category of parents that seemsto belive that just because they left a relationship they dont have to put their kids first, suddenly they have a new family to care about. The kids from before? Well they suddenly seem to be non-existing and this makes me absolutely furious! Whenever I come across kids with such parents I do my best to show them that I care, I try to always make sure that their needs are fullfilled as best as I can but there is one thing I can never be, and that is their father or mother. Only one person can take that role, their true parent of whatever gender that might be.
I can be a good rolemodel ofcourse but not more then that.

I just dont get it.. You one day seem to be thebest father/mother in the world and then all over sudden you aint a parent at all, the kids can wait, they aint going nowhere are they?
The truth is they cant wait, you were never meant to put them aside, not even for a second unless it was in their best interest (such as if the parent is a addict of some kind etc.) .
Their days will keep passing by, they will see other kids parents pick their kids up at kindergarden, they will hear other kids brag about how strong their fathers are, how good their mothers cooking tastes and so on. And you refuse them the possibility of bragging the same way. You refuse them the opportunity to tell you in the evening how their day was, you refuse them the opportunity to share their deepest secrets with you. Why?  I can only see one reason, and that is selfishness.

Then we have one more category of parents I hate, the ones that uses kids as a weapon to get to the other parent. Kids lifes aint supposed to be a battlefield where mom or dad wants to get at the other parent with all costs, you have no right, whatsoever, to backtalk the other parent in front of your child, non! I know sometimes its hard to keep quiet but think about it for a second, once you must have had some sort of good feeling for the other parent, right?
So if you backtalk that person doesnt that only show that you were a moron to create a new life with that exact person?
Did your child say to you: Him/her I want as a parent"?
The answer to that question should be a no if natures law still exist.
Let your kid love the other parent, its in the best interest of the kid I promise!

Also we have the parents that keep their child away from the other parent, the kid has no chance of choosing on its own but you feel like you have the right to? Nuh-uh.. I got news for you, as long as you cant show that it is in any way dangerous for the kid to be around its other parent you are wrong, DEADWRONG!
Once again, you need to understand that keeping a child away from the other parent does not only hurt the other parent but your kid is the one hurting most, often with life-long scars in its soul and you have no right of causing that, then you are the iresponsible parent that never should have become a parent from the start. You are the one hurting your child, not the other parent.

Take a minute -. Think about it, are you really a good parent?